“Acceptance to What Is” — Kara’s Story
EMOTIONAL HEALING
Kara survived a brain infection that left her with amnesia, seizures and years of detachment from her own life. She has been sober for fourteen years, runs marathons, and has seen her psychologist weekly for sixteen years. What follows is her account, in her own words, of the spiritual part of that journey.
Where They Started
I got an infection from the epidural I had giving birth to my second child. The infection travelled up my spine and landed in both temporal lobes and the hippocampus of my brain. This left me with amnesia, seizures, dementia issues, and a nonstop state of depersonalisation and derealisation. When my brain felt the infection coming on, it thought it was doing me a favour by detaching me consciously from life and everyone in it.
I sat on my sofa and drank myself half dead just to numb my detachment issues. I do not remember being pregnant and giving birth to either of my two children. I do not remember meeting or marrying my husband. I forgot my entire college education.
The Work They Did
I was implanted with my VNS — a Vagus Nerve Stimulator — for seizure control. It turns out that stimulating my vagus nerve not only stops my seizures, it also makes it possible to feel emotions and connection to people again. I still dealt with depersonalisation. I got sober and started exercising. Today I am coming up on 14 years sober, and running marathons and competing in triathlons.
I have also been seeing my psychologist weekly for the past 16 years, so she has assisted in my long-term recovery. Paramjit assisted in the spiritual part of my journey.
I met Paramjit a few years ago. Paramjit has taught me how to forgive myself and learn to like myself, and we are still working on learning to love myself for the first time in my life. I am a work in progress. Paramjit also inspired me to write my book. He inspired me to start my own Facebook page, called “Acceptance to What Is.” Paramjit has shown me about unconditional love. He has shown me that God is all-forgiving, and that He forgives me too. God wants me to help people today, and this is why Paramjit came into my life. He has inspired me to want to help people. Helping people helps me.
Paramjit sends me quotes and sayings, all based on love and kindness. I deal with dementia issues from my brain infection, so any time I would like to discuss something with him and want to remember it the next time we chat, it does not disturb him if I send a quick message about what I need to process. I feel contentment by day’s end.
There are all kinds of “wellness coaches” in today’s society. What struck me about Paramjit is that he is genuine about wanting to assist with my spiritual and wellness journey. You can see that Paramjit wants to help people feel at least a bit better about themselves by the time they fall asleep at night.
I listen to a lot of Deepak Chopra — I bought all his book CDs, so he piqued my interest. Then I moved on to Eckhart Tolle, and my journey really took off. I started listening to other philosophers. I realised there is something more out there — but where? Paramjit assisted in personalising my story for my journey. I feel more connected to life than I ever have been, with the assistance of Paramjit’s wisdom and life plans.
Paramjit just has a presence about him that is comforting and trustworthy. He is a gentleman as well.
When I told Paramjit something I have never told anyone, he never judged me for it. He helped me realise that I had created my own prison, and that I am worthy of love.
What's Different Now
I learned that it is OK to forgive myself — that not only can I like myself, I can love myself too, in all my flaws.
Today, I understand that I am loveable and forgivable. I can write a book too. People might be interested in the love, kindness, empathy, and compassion I want to spread around.
I have my family’s support. I have never truly appreciated it before. Paramjit has inspired me to go to my gratitude. I know I am grateful for my family and my life. I have a lifelong friendship with Paramjit, and I am grateful for that too.
Acceptance of what is. Forgiveness and compassion for myself — that is my responsibility for my own healing.
What’s different now? I am more patient with myself and others. I am not as judgmental. I am more aware of the moment, and I live in it again. I am a work in progress.
My suggestion to others: give peace, love, hope, and compassion a chance.
“He helped me realise that I had created my own prison, and that I am worthy of love.”
— Kara
This is one person’s genuine experience, shared with their permission — not a guarantee of results for any other individual. When emotional patterns are understood and gently resolved, many people find the pain begins to ease naturally, and their outlook shifts — sometimes enough that it no longer affects their daily life. Every journey is different. This work complements medical and psychological care; it does not replace it.
Your Story Could Begin Here Too
If something here resonates, the next step is simply a conversation — no obligation, just an honest talk about where you are.